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September, 2013

  1. Museum Memberships

    September 30, 2013 by admin

    IMG_0849We’ve spoken at length about how important museum memberships are to support the Arts and to partake of the associated benefits.  But lately, this position has been tested.

    We are proud members of Milwaukee Public Museum (MPM).  Membership to this museum allows you to visit ASTC museums for free, or dramatically reduced rates.  But there is fine print that we didn’t understand until recently (not the fault of MPM).

    If participating museums are within 90 miles of each other, they are “excluded from the Program unless this exclusion is lifted by mutual agreement.”  And to further exacerbate you, “90 miles is measured ‘as the crow flies’ and not by driving distance.”  But wait, there is more:  this rule is “based on your museum’s location,” – the spot where you have membership.  The description then goes on to explain that “based on residence, you must live more than 90 miles away ‘as the crow flies’ from the museum you wish to visit.”

    I’m sure you are as confused as we were when trying to comprehend the rules?  See this hyperlink to help you!

    Now, since we assume you aren’t a crow, and since you can’t use googlemaps to confirm distance, how on earth do you figure out if you are within 90 miles?  Shame on ASTC for adding such ridiculous restrictions when they claim to “promote equity and diversity by providing members with resources and tools to increase the number of individuals from underrepresented and/or underserved groups who visit and work in museums.

    We understand that museums rely, in great part, on their admission fees to continue their programs.  But at the end of the day, we would be quite surprised to see that the admission of ASTC members really breaks any museum’s bottom line.  We encourage them to lift the restriction.  It is absurd.

    Are we not supposed to be neighborly?  Or are our goals not to encourage visitation, education, and the spread of favorable reviews by visitors?  Most people looking for free or discounted admission aren’t doing so just to “mess with the system.”  These are families, or lower income people that can’t afford the typically outrageous admission costs; i.e. the target audience of the ASTC mission .  For example, to visit Discovery World in Milwaukee, our family would have to pay $60 for the day.  This does not include gas from Madison, food, or parking.

    And if you are going to enforce the 90 mile rule, rather than lifting the exclusion, be forthright about it.  Put a list of museums that you will not honor on your website.  We have visited Discovery World twice in the past 2 years without any trouble.  Until just recently when someone decided that they would be the mighty enforcer of the “as the crow flies” and subsequently ruined our weekend plans.

    Of course, if you go to Discovery World’s site, they encourage you to become members to enjoy the benefits of ASTC.  But these benefits are minimal if they only apply to people that are able to drive two hours, and afford the associated costs, to get to a museum for the day.

    Our only advice would be to become a member to a museum with caution and always call ahead to the place that you plan to visit.  Then take notes on who you speak with, as there seems to be nothing but confusion about how to enforce the ASTC policy.

    We hope that the ASTC and their member museums will see the value of increased museum attendance vs. trying to squeeze additional entry fees from the people least able to afford it.


  2. Bored Walk

    September 28, 2013 by admin

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    We frequently find, like most parents, that our kids look to us to solve simple problems for them.  A common issue that we’re asked to work out: Boredom.

    Perhaps it is because we love spending time with our kiddoes, and planning out all sorts of adventures, that they expect us to offer up something ‘interesting’ to do.  But we know that they need to find ways to entertain themselves.  Otherwise, we’re looking at some future 30 year olds who can’t think of anything to do besides watch TV.

    So we’re trying out this tactic:

    • Kiddo:  “I’m Bored!”
    • Parent:  “Great!”

     

    This isn’t the end of the conversation, it’s the start.  Being bored is OK.  It means that your mind is ready to come up with the next great plan and the next great activity.  And with so many toys, art supplies, books, bicycles, the great outdoors, the nature channel, and even more to choose from—surely, your fine brain is capable of forming the next great experience.

    So we try not to solve the boredom question.  We remind our kids of how great it can be to be bored.  We nudge them towards figuring out what they want to do to cure their boredom.

    Most of the time, they come up with a fantastic plan.


  3. Confidence and Conversation

    September 26, 2013 by admin

    Our son will talk to anyone about anything.  He is not intimidated by adults.  Plum is equally engaging, but takes a while to warm up to people.

    Our kid’s willingness to engage has opened many doorways for them and afforded them some very unique experiences and friendships.

    IMG_2139When they saw a maintenance person working on a fountain at a garden, they ran up to him for a closer look at his project.  It turned out that the maintenance person also tends the Koi in the rose garden.  He invited our kids to feed the Koi their breakfast.

    When Bluey got chatty with a man in the Domes gift shop, it turned out that he is their marketing director.  He told us of some “secret” new displays in the Domes and of a brand new bike path over a train yard on the nearby property.

    Our kids have good friends at the Hyvee Madison #1, the Green Owl Café, the Victory Café, Oregon NAPA Auto Parts, and more.  IMG_1816These are folks that greet our kids by name and speak to them as equal participants in any conversation.  They add a tremendous value to the growth of our children and we are very grateful.

    Many parents hold their kids back from talking to adults, especially in settings where there might be some expectation of “knowing your place.”  This reservation harkens back to the adage of children should be seen and not heard.  We say break that cycle and allow your kids to deepen their relationship with their world.


  4. How long is 30 seconds?

    September 24, 2013 by admin

    If you are wondering how much mischief your kid can get up to in thirty seconds, try this little experiment.

    Turn off all the music, TV, and other distractions in the room.

    IMG_2296Click on the following link, and quickly close your eyes.

    Open them when you think 30 seconds has elapsed.

    Did you make it to the end?  What do you think your kids could have accomplished during that time?

    Depending on the age of your child, thirty seconds alone could be disastrous.  Or it could be just the right amount of time that they need in order to solve a problem on their own.  Perhaps they could actually attempt to tie their shoes before you swing in to help?

    The next time your kid asks for a hand with a task, try to consider if just 30 seconds would afford them the opportunity to learn how to do it without your assistance.

    Regardless, most people are surprised by how long it takes 30 seconds to pass.  So make sure your kiddo is in a safe space before you allow them to be unsupervised for  even that short amount of time.


  5. Union Family

    September 22, 2013 by admin

    image_Terrace_chairs_clairemelin_01When our family moved to Madison, we met many new friends. When conversations turned to ‘what to do in Madison’, most of these friends recommended going to the UW Memorial Union (the Union). Guess what?  They were right!  The Union is a great place to visit!

    Situated on the shores of Lake Mendota, on the State Street end of the University of Wisconsin campus, the Memorial Union is a beautiful building with many things to do and see. We were initially hesitant to visit the Union, because it seemed like it was a student thing, a student place.  While many students congregate there, you will find you are not the only non-students enjoying all the Union has to offer.

    One of the things we like best is to go to the Union for lunch at der Ratheskeller.  Der Ratheskeller features a number of delicious sandwich and soup options, along with what may well be the Best french fries on the planet.  Meals are inexpensive and filling– we usually have leftover fries and such to bring home.  No one in our family complains when it is announced that we’ll be eating at the Union.  On Badger and Packer game days, you’ll see the game on a giant screen TV while you eat.  At night you can listen to open mikes, or local bands perform on the small indoor stage. IMG_0416

    After lunch, we like an ice cream or shake from the Daily Scoop.  The Scoop features UW’s famous Babcock Hall ice cream, and the Blue Moon shakes are a favorite of ours (but all the flavors are excellent.

    Apart from all the eating, do explore the building and grounds.  Upstairs, you’ll find student art galleries and study spaces, as well as offices of community/ campus organizations like the Hoofers.

    The Terrace is not to be missed.  With seating for hundreds (in the classic Union Terrace chairs!), the Terrace offers a beautiful place to eat, while people and bird watching on the lakeshore.  We’ve met friendly fisherman, charming foreign exchange students, and beautiful dogs and parrots on the Terrace.  Frequently, we like to dip a toe in the water and watch the ducks swim about.  During warm weather, the Terrace also features several additional places to please the palate- including the Brat Stand.  The Terrace concert series brings nationally known acts to play free of charge, so watch the calendar for a fun free show to attend!

    Don’t be scared off from the Union!  It shouldn’t be missed.IMG_0276


  6. Allowances

    September 20, 2013 by admin

    piggy-bank-on-moneyThere are arguments for and against giving a child an allowance every month.  We made the decision to give our Plum $10 a month because we were downright tired of hearing, “can I get this…or can I have that…”  And we wanted her to develop the necessary skills involved when handling money:  budgeting, accounting, responsibility, safe keeping, etc.

    But once we executed this decision, we didn’t do much else-  until recently.

    We discussed with Plum that we would make a change to the way we provide her allowance.  We were inspired, in part, by a discussion heard on NPR.

    Now 20% of Plum’s allowance will automatically go into a savings account, 20% will go to a charitable cause of her choice, and 60% will go directly to Plum for her own spending on her own terms.  We will not control her withdrawals from the savings account.  But we will engage in a discussion over whether or not she really wants, or needs, to us those funds.

    Plum is excited as she loves supporting non profits, she has been struggling to save for larger purchases, and she gets to open her very first bank account.  It certainly feels like a move in the right direction for this TR family!


  7. Wonton Club

    September 18, 2013 by admin

    IMG_1474We recently found that making your own custom wontons is simple, but creates an impressive looking and delicious meal.  Wonton wrappers are available in most supermarkets- in our chain store, they are in the freezer section.  But you may also see them in the refrigerated sections.

    Tip1: Asian food markets are a great place to find wonton wrappers, if you are having trouble finding them at your local market.

    The process is easy!  Simply place a tablespoon, or so, of filling in the center of the wonton.  Fold it in half and seal it with a water-dipped finger.  Line the wontons on a sheet IMG_1470tray and  brush them lightly with oil.  Bake in the oven for about 10 minutes at 350 degrees.  You can also boil or fry the wontons, but we find baking to be a low-fat and easy option.  Serve with rice and soy sauce, or tamari!

    Our family’s favorite filling is edamame beans:

    Boil 2 cups of frozen edamame beans on the stove top for a five minutes, until done.

    Chop beans in food processor with 1t fresh ginger and a dash of salt and pepper.  A couple of drops of lime (or lemon) juice will bring a bit of zing to the filling.  Don’t puree the beans.  Just rough chop them, so they still have a noticeable  texture.

    Tip2: Unused filling can be frozen to save time on your next wonton night.

    Other fillings we’ve tried include:  sweet potato with ginger and/or scallion, or cream cheese.

    IMG_1472Wonton making can be a great family cooking project.  Everyone can get in on the preparation!

    Be creative and put your family’s favorite flavors into a wonton!

     


  8. Accidental Excursion: Urban Ecology Center

    September 16, 2013 by admin

    IMG_1991We recently headed to Milwaukee to visit one of our favorite places, the Discovery World Museum.  Located right on Lake Michigan, Discovery World seemed like a great choice on a fine, Fall day: walks along the lake, a great view of the ships, and sailboats…

    But it was not to be.  For reasons still unknown to us, that entire section of town was blocked off by police.  Several ramps from the interstate were closed, and when we tried to reroute via side-streets, we met the same fate- blocked streets.  We asked a police officer how to get to the museum, and he just shook his head- “You can’t.”

    Well, all the museums we are familiar with are in this same area, but there was no way to get close to them.  We had to quickly change gears in order to save the day.  Searching our brains, and the internet for new options, we finally remembered reading about the Urban Ecology Center.  It looked to be far enough away from the blocked streets that we would be able to access it, and we’d never been there before- so it would be a new adventure for everyone!

    Boy, were our instincts right!

    The Urban Ecology Center is a beautiful oasis in the middle of urban Milwaukee.  It is close to a main bus route, has access to a river, and a bike path going right through the main property, so it is easy to get to it by a variety of transportation options.  Once you arrive, you’ll find miles of nature paths winding through woods and prairies, up to the river and back.  The Center itself is a beautiful building with several small tanks of live, local animals; musical instruments you can play; arts&crafts tables; A funky slide from outside to inside; and a cozy woodstove.  Outside the building you’ll find more animal habitats, a huge climbing wall, and a tall (but sturdy) observation tower.  All offered with no admission fee.

    Entering the secret slide!

    Entering the secret slide!

    We explored the area for quite a while before heading off for lunch, with vows to return to explore some more.

    Next time your intended destination doesn’t quite work out, don’t throw in the towel!  Check out some of the lesser known places in your area, you never know what you’ll find.


  9. Route Planning For Your Dog

    September 14, 2013 by admin

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    Part of our Continuing Series on Traveling With Pets

    Once you’ve gotten your car all packed for a road trip with the pup, you need to consider your travel route.  While this may seem daunting, it’s actually quite easy.  After a few adventures, planning will become as natural as any other part of the journey.

    When considering a car ride with your dog, think about how long of a trip you are taking.  The longer the trip, the more extra thought your pup requires.  Ponder these questions:  when will your dog eat? drink? get exercise? relax in nature?

    Whether you prefer an online map, an atlas, or a folded paper map- your best bet is to check your route for a park along the way.  We like to search in two or three-hour intervals for a stopping place—you may have to stop more often if you have an older dog, or a puppy (when Moo was a pup, we stopped every 30 or 45 minutes to let her out.)  A few stops built into the trip and your dog can go potty, get a drink of water, and maybe have a bite to eat.

    Many of these stops will bring you into towns you might not have noticed before and give you a chance to see natural sights you may have otherwise missed.

    Tip: Your car can get hot very quick.  Never leave your dog alone in the car!

    We do a short bit of internet research on each selected stop before we leave to make sure that dogs are permitted, and where they can go off leash.  Giving your dog a chance to get her run-on will help keep her happy and help her sleep when back in the car.

    Things to pack in your car:

    • A water/food bowl:  we use one metal bowl for both purposes.
    • A container of food
    • A bottle of water: ours is a half gallon size- plenty of water is important!
    • Chew toys for the ride: we have a hard ‘chew bone’ that stays in the car and helps our pup relax.
    • Toss toys for stops at parks.
    • Check our complete dog packing list HERE.

     

    You not only get a great travelling companion with your dog in the car, but an added reason to check out some parks and natural areas that you might have driven right by on the interstate.


  10. Walking the Wall

    September 12, 2013 by admin

    “I appeal to parents: never, never say ‘Hurry up!’ to a child. “  Vladimir Nabokov in Speak, Memory

    We walk or bike regularly around our neighborhood, and our kids each have their own little favorite moments.

    IMG_0399Plum likes to pause to admire a cool mailbox, or a new type of flower.  Bluey likes to stop to inspect a bug, collect a rock, or to walk along a short, cinder block wall.  And althoughIMG_1091  we are sometimes on a tight schedule, or we have pressing matters to attend to, we try to make time for these explorations whenever possible.

    Before you rush your kiddo along, consider the grand scheme.  Is the thirty or sixty seconds spent inspecting a bicycle rack, or following a crack in the sidewalk, really going to ruin your master plan?  Chances are, it will not have any negative effect.

    These moments of exploration result in a deeper connection to the world and to each other.  We’re not perfect at pausing, but we’ve been trying to lead a less hurried life.  We want to take more time to marvel at the beauty of the world, or watch our proud, young children as they show off their madskillz.

    Let your kids have their little moments.  They’ll appreciate you for it.  They’ll remember it.  And you might end up feeling better yourself.